Merging into a new work environment can be tough.  And, initially the hardest part may not be the daunting work ahead, but rather overcoming a situation where everyone at your new office shares a history and a common bond - none of which includes you.  You're the outsider.  The new kid in school, so to speak.  So, how do you fit in?

Build a Connection One-At-A-Time. Most of us, when starting a new job, feel at least a little apprehension. While you may want to immediately become a part of the group, it is most effective to build work relationships one at a time.  Here's a Tip - Be open to lunch offers or after work mixers.  Notice those around you, especially those who sit in close proximity.  Do they go out for an afternoon coffee?  If so, invite them to go down to the nearest coffee shop with you.  It's a great way to break the ice!

Listen. People like talking about their own life experiences.  Be open to hearing them, without redirecting the subject to yourself.  Comment on how well your coworker(s) handle particular situations, their sense of style or an obvious skill they possess.  Showing genuine interest in getting to know your new coworkers is a natural and honest segue into meaningful conversation.  Soon, coworkers will seek you out because being around you makes them feel good!

Share. People like to be inspired; especially if the inspiration comes from an honest and trustworthy person.  Don't be shy in sharing your experiences with others.  Perhaps you endured a particularly difficult time in your life, similar to what a coworker is going through.  Without revealing more than you are comfortable with, open up and make a connection.  Shared experiences bond people together!

Got it?  Good!  Well, there is one more thing to remember...

Remember to Return the Favor. As new employees come on board.  Remember how it felt when you were new.  Be friendly and welcoming.  That said, remember why your employer hired you.  You were hired to WORK!  And, while friendships are fulfilling and make work more enjoyable, those friendships are secondary to exemplary job performance.  So, work smart and make a lasting impression on your employer!